My sister sent out wedding invites with a note saying a minimum cash gift of $150 is expected to cover the cost of our plate. Is it acceptable to mandate a specific gift amount?

Cultural expectations may influence what people give, but they cannot make every guest equally able to afford a fixed amount.

If your sister requests $150, start by asking whether it is a suggestion or a condition of attendance. Explain calmly that you want to celebrate her marriage and will give within your means. There is no need to disclose private continue reading …